It is 2018, why are other women still being shamed for not being “ladylike”? I expect this attitude from my grandmother, I do not expect it from my peer group or those slightly under than me. According to antiquated gender stereotypes, women should be well-mannered, graceful, and modest (yeah, okay). When you do not meet the terms of your gender, you can be met with a sarcastic “how ladylike” and an eye-roll.
This is not unique to me, but I am not much of a lady at all. The only thing that may qualify is that I am quiet and reserved, but that is due to my anxiety more than anything else.
I am clumsy
I burp loudly and often
I sit with my legs open
I don’t shave my armpits
I very rarely shave my legs
I often wear men’s clothing
I talk with my mouth full
I make crass jokes
I drink IPA’s
Sometimes I act like a 12-year old boy
And, if you think I will change my mind about kids, you can suck it!
(The list can go on and on)
I do not do these things to take a stand or make a statement, it is just who I am. #sorrynotsorry
I am writing this from my perspective as a woman, but let us not forget that men face these same attacks; hypermasculinity can become downright abusive. Even further, transgender and non-binary folks continue to have to carve a place in society for their identity to be accepted. Regardless of how we have been socialized, we all have the right to express ourselves however we want!
So, I see your eye roll and I raise you a middle finger.