Encouragement Corner

You’re an Absolute Boss: A Word of Career Advice For My Younger Self

First, let’s start by saying you’re an absolute boss! You do not have to be preoccupied with thoughts of your future, scenarios of failure, or feeling like a fraud. You do not need to have everything figured out right now. Honestly, as an adult, you still won’t have things completely figured out. That’s okay! There’s so much pressure to plan out your whole life by the time you graduate high school; our lives have barely begun. There’s so much to learn about yourself, education, careers, and humanity.

Here’s my advice, dear. Take the time to explore your many interests, without fear. Having varied fascinations from biology, psychology, sociology, to the theater, graphic design, advertising, and writing, does not make you confused or fickle. You do not need your parents or guidance counselor’s permission to give yourself space to explore these interests and find out what truly excites you. You have a smart head on your shoulders, don’t doubt that or your instincts. Even if you make a decision that didn’t pan out as planned, you can always make another choice. You’re not stuck, you didn’t fail, and those decisions do not define you.

Listen to your heart and the gnawing desires that seem scary. Though we are socialized to question ourselves, remember that no one knows you better than you. You can receive advice and other opinions; they don’t have to override your inner thoughts and feelings. You create, hone, and maintain your talent. It is yours. No one can claim them or take them away from you. Your natural ability to learn and challenge yourself will make other envious, but it doesn’t mean you’re doing the wrong thing. Keep going! If you feel uneasy about a work environment, question it, even leave it. If you feel uncomfortable going after something that interests you, do it. Sit with these feelings and use them to motivate you. Again, I have to reiterate, when you make a decision, you’re doing what’s best with the information you have on hand. If you receive new information or something changes, that’s okay. It doesn’t reflect badly on you, reflect on the lesson, take the information, and make new decisions.

No matter what you do, you’re going places. You should be proud of yourself now and always. Now is not the time for stressing or worrying about your future. Now is the time to be open to learning, exploring your passions and values, and having fun. You’re in the driver’s seat(congrats on getting your license!), you can dictate where you want to go, and who comes along. Keep growing and learning!

What advice would you give your younger self?


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    • That’s great advice! It’s not easy seeking help. And yes, I would say my worries did interfere with my growth because I would hold myself back due to the discomfort raised by my fears. When it actuality, that discomfort may have been informing me that I am on the right path; break out; go for it :).

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  1. The advice I would give to my younger self is: I know your only wish is to be happy. Even in your 30s, you are still on that journey, but you are doing the work and you will figure it out – you’re getting closer every day. Oh, and by the way, you still feel like a child even In your 30s – you haven’t changed much. And you really like who you are 🥳

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  2. Sound advice, Tiara. Especially to accept that ‘when you make a decision, you’re doing what’s best with the information you have on hand.’ That is so important. I’ve beaten myself up about poor decision making with hindsight. We have no rear view mirror. Accept and move on.

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    • That’s beautiful, thank you Francine. Upon this writing this letter, the standout lesson was that it’s never too late to discover and do right by yourself. That process doesn’t just stop when we’re young.

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