Love is Weird: Thoughts on Our Ninth Anniversary

The day I realized I was in love with Austin I sobbed. Stirring in a mix of confusion and anxiety, I sat on my bedroom floor with tears streaming down my face. I had never felt like that before and those new emotions felt like an attack. I knew if I said the words first [...]

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5 Wedding Etiquette Rules I’m Breaking

Planning a wedding can be excruciating, especially when your plans become flooded by a sea of opinions and questions. Friends, family, and strangers think they know best; there are hundreds of books and forums that retell proper wedding etiquette and how to be a well-behaved bride and/or groom. I am starting to think the most [...]

Friendship First & Other (Useless) Relationship Advice

"What's your secret?" "How have you guys lasted so long" "Don't you get tired of each other?" Austin and I are often interrogated about our relationship. We are also asked to consult on the relationships of our friends and families. Everyone desperately wants to know that their relationship is strong and unique or that they [...]

Sexuality [Question Mark]

When I was growing up, I had no idea what a gender or sexual identity was. All I knew was that I know I was a girl, I guess. If I was not wearing a Catholic schoolgirl uniform, I wore my brothers’ and dad’s hand-me-downs or we all shopped in the men’s section together. I […]

Our Fictitious Child

Austin and I do not want children, I have mentioned it here. It is something we have always agreed on. As much as our parents want more grandchildren, and as much as we are well aware we would make great parents, they will have to be learn to be content or pester our other siblings. [...]

“Where’s the Ring?”

So here is a secret, not really, I am planning a small wedding ceremony for next year. November 2019, universe willing, my partner and I will be celebrating 10 years together. I still do not know how or why we continue to work, but it is still a thing. With that being said, I am [...]

Labels, Labels, Everywhere and Not a Drop to Drink

I spent some time with a friend recently, and probably will not again, who claimed that her high school boyfriend is now "gay". "Oh, that's nice," I said, which apparently was the wrong response. "How is that nice? He likes men now! What does that say about me?!" I looked at her puzzled. My immediate [...]

“But You Would Make a Great Mom!”

I do not want kids. I do not want kids. I do not want kids. I do not think it makes selfish, heartless, or narcissistic. Very early on, when I thought I wanted kids, I realized I just wanted to name babies and dress them sometimes. I can be very nurturing and the mom, these [...]

My Long-term Relationship: Not My Biggest Accomplishment

I have been in a relationship for nearly eight and a half years. Yes, you read that correctly, eight and a half LONG years. Austin and I met the old fashion way; we worked together, we became friends, completely missed all the signs we may like each other, and then awkwardly found ourselves on a [...]