“Ladies, Watch Your Back!”

TRIGGER WARNING This post and/or pages it links to, contains information about sexual assault and/or violence which may be triggering to survivors. I have yet to meet a woman that does not take some form a precaution when entering the world. Despite our backgrounds, it is one of the factors that uniquely bond us. I [...]

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Be Kind: Random Act of Kindness Award

My dear comrade Em, of Famine to Feast, nominated me for the Random Act of Kindness Award. I had to read her post twice to make sure it was actually me she was referring to, it was an unexpected, sweet gesture. Em is truly a genuine person and she allows us to bear witness to [...]

You Are Not Alone

You're born into this world alone and you'll die alone. You know that statement is entirely false, right? I usually hear this when someone is trying to sound profound; sometimes, it is used as justification for failed relationships. In reality, you came into this world literally connected to someone else. What happened between then and [...]

Flawesome and Jetsam

The lovely Sophia Ismaa nominated me for her newly created Flawesome Award. Sophia is such a positive person and her blog is definitely one you want to follow, especially if you love books and apt social commentary. The Flawesome award is meant to recognize our individual flaws. We all have them and they make us [...]

An Open Letter to a Dear Friend

Three years ago, you left this earth; leaving the rest of us confused and shattered. We had no idea you had been suffering for so long. The pain, vines with sharp thorns wrapping around your mind and overgrown across your body; the feeling of no escape, no clear way out. You were not the first [...]

Hypervigilance is Exhausting

It is tiresome to constantly feel the urgency to watch my back. I have yet to find proof that it is safe for me to let my guard down and run into the arms of a world free from harm. My hypervigilance is intersectional; I have three strikes against me. I am a woman. I [...]

“Stop Resisting!”

A phrase that, theoretically, is supposed to stop us in our tracks. Someone with coerced authority tells us to stop resisting and we are obligated to become compliant. Despite the egregiousness of the offense, we are expected to relinquish opposition and concede. We hear this command from police officers. We hear this command from government [...]

10 Helpful Tips When Seeking Therapy

May is Mental Health Awareness month! In my heart, I feel we are getting a little closer to recognizing mental health as regular health, but there is still so much work that needs to be done. I have this conversation, somewhat frequently, on what to expect or what you need to know when looking for [...]

Labels, Labels, Everywhere and Not a Drop to Drink

I spent some time with a friend recently, and probably will not again, who claimed that her high school boyfriend is now "gay". "Oh, that's nice," I said, which apparently was the wrong response. "How is that nice? He likes men now! What does that say about me?!" I looked at her puzzled. My immediate [...]

Three Days, Three Quotes: Day Three

As I wrap up this three day challenge, I want to thank Laketra BFF for her presence and continued support. As you mentioned during your three days, it is truly a challenge. I respect the bloggers and artists who elect to write every single day. For my final quote, I would like to acknowledge another [...]